Marriage separation and dating
There are times when one person clearly has no intention of staying married or taking responsibility for the damage caused. I recently met with a woman who was in the throes of separation.
While she grieved the loss of her family, she was also terrified that God would ask her to go back into an abusive marriage.
The state of separation will continue to be that way unless there is a clear road forward.
With a counselor, you need to identify the specific problems that led to the separation.
Or is it simply a stepping-stone toward an inevitable divorce?
While some couples separate with every intention of divorcing, a therapeutic separation based upon biblical principles is an entirely different proposition.
The crisis of separation makes a strong statement both to the couple and their community that “we need help.” The Bible tells us what to do when there is sin in a relationship (see Matthew –17). If they don’t listen, we should bring in a third party.
If they still don’t listen, we ought to ask for help from a church authority.
Is it just a way for Christians to avoid the stigma and trauma of divorce?
In a therapeutic separation, entered into with the help of wise counsel, the couple hopes for a restoration of the marriage rather than dissolution.
If you are separated or are contemplating separation, consider these five hallmarks of therapeutic separation to help you approach your decision in a healthy and God-honoring way.
However, some issues, such as abuse, addiction, or a spouse who won’t work through serious conflicts, call for drastic intervention.
As a Christian who believes in the sanctity of the marriage covenant, I am hesitant to ever recommend divorce.
As Jesus said in Mark 10:9, “Let no one split apart what God has joined together.” However, I don’t recommend that women stay stuck in a relationship that is abusive, destructive, or riddled with betrayal; hence, the option of separation.